Thanks for all your comments!!! Yes, yes, yes, there will be lots more teasers to come. I will keep you posted every step of the way on progress of the novella!!!!
For those of you dating online or thinking of going online, you can never be too cautious. The internet is the best thing that has happened to civilization, since well, sliced bread.... but it can also be a breeding ground for unsavory characters.............Ladies, there are men everywhere. Everywhere. In bars, on the internet, at church, in jail, in school, everywhere!!! But if you venture online, you'll find it all at your fingertips - tall men, short, men, sporty men - of course these are men who actually play sports as opposed to men who just love talking about or watching sports and who have never played any sports. And for the record, if you're not athletic and toned, please do not indicate that you are. Check the appropriate box named average or below average. I don't look like Halle and I don't claim that I do. We should all expect some honesty....... shouldn't we??
The good thing with online dating is that the singles are actually looking. Its the willy wonka of dating..... First impressions are based on spelling mistakes, bad grammar, illogical use of words......... Just for the record, conversate is not really a word. Just say talk or speak. Let's not conversate. Let's pretend we did, but please let's not. OK........ so some tips---[Disclaimer: I am not an online dating expert and do not purport to be one. These tips are just some of the things I watch out for when dating online]............
1. Please, please, please use some common sense - The internet creates a false sense of familiarity. Exchanging emails and witty banters can lull you into the land of "but i feel so close to him already".... trust me, you don't. You just think you do. Just because you believe you "click" with someone doesn't mean you should immediately exchange phone numbers and addresses. If possible set up a different email address for people to contact you. If your name is Katie Harris, please don't use katieharris@hotmail.com. In this day and age, folks can get all kinds of information on the web. Stay anonymous for as long as you can, until you feel comfortable exchanging this information.
2. The decision to post pictures or not, is personal. Some people don't post because they are embarassed and some claim that they cannot post due to their highly secretive and sensitive jobs - well, the reality is that if you post pictures you will get more hits. If your profile stands out, you may not need pictures. Your call.
3. Don't focus on just one person. Don't put all your eggs into one basket. Just because you have this "OMG wonderful connection with this super awesome gal/guy" does not mean you should communicate with him to the exclusion of all potential suitors. You can narrow it down later. In the beginning, compare and contrast. Check out the market. See what's out there. Don't limit yourself. Keep an open mind. You never know who you'll meet.
4. Keep your profile upbeat and clean. Be sassy and honest, but please refrain from being raunchy. You don't want to attract the wrong people. I'm sure there are specific sites for that. If that's what you're looking for, go to those specfic sites. Keep the cliches to a minimum. You don't want to sound too {insert word of choice}. Double check for spelling mistakes. None of us are perfect, but if you find an error, edit your profile. After all, its your first impression, right???
5. Post a fabulous picture!!! Its does not have to be a glamour shot. One that clearly shows off your best features and at least shows off your face.
6. If you get the "i don't feel comfortable vibe"......... stop communicating with that person. Its not worth it. That's the beauty of the internet. If you start feeling like "i'm too fabulous for this nonsense," you probably are. Move on.
7. Check out the different websites and compare. You've probably seen all the ads. Go with the one that seems like the best fit for you. Enjoy yourself. Join multiple sites if you want. Go after your heart!!
8. Stay safe. When you choose to meet, do so in a public place. You can never really trust someone you don't even know. No matter how close you feel to them after six months of online communication.
9. Don't put your online friend on a pedastle. You don't even know them. You'll be crushed when you meet him/her in person and he/she doesn't turn out to be this elaborate fantasy you have created in your head. Some people are a lot different in person from their online personalities.
10. Don't believe everything you see/read/hear from this individual. He/She could be married and living a double life. Trust your instincts. They are usually right!!!
11. Be smart. Use your good judgment. Its the internet. There are scams just like with any other online activity.
12. Be cautiously optimistic. Be yourself and let the man/woman of your dreams fall in love with the real you.
For those of you dating online or thinking of going online, you can never be too cautious. The internet is the best thing that has happened to civilization, since well, sliced bread.... but it can also be a breeding ground for unsavory characters.............Ladies, there are men everywhere. Everywhere. In bars, on the internet, at church, in jail, in school, everywhere!!! But if you venture online, you'll find it all at your fingertips - tall men, short, men, sporty men - of course these are men who actually play sports as opposed to men who just love talking about or watching sports and who have never played any sports. And for the record, if you're not athletic and toned, please do not indicate that you are. Check the appropriate box named average or below average. I don't look like Halle and I don't claim that I do. We should all expect some honesty....... shouldn't we??
The good thing with online dating is that the singles are actually looking. Its the willy wonka of dating..... First impressions are based on spelling mistakes, bad grammar, illogical use of words......... Just for the record, conversate is not really a word. Just say talk or speak. Let's not conversate. Let's pretend we did, but please let's not. OK........ so some tips---[Disclaimer: I am not an online dating expert and do not purport to be one. These tips are just some of the things I watch out for when dating online]............
1. Please, please, please use some common sense - The internet creates a false sense of familiarity. Exchanging emails and witty banters can lull you into the land of "but i feel so close to him already".... trust me, you don't. You just think you do. Just because you believe you "click" with someone doesn't mean you should immediately exchange phone numbers and addresses. If possible set up a different email address for people to contact you. If your name is Katie Harris, please don't use katieharris@hotmail.com. In this day and age, folks can get all kinds of information on the web. Stay anonymous for as long as you can, until you feel comfortable exchanging this information.
2. The decision to post pictures or not, is personal. Some people don't post because they are embarassed and some claim that they cannot post due to their highly secretive and sensitive jobs - well, the reality is that if you post pictures you will get more hits. If your profile stands out, you may not need pictures. Your call.
3. Don't focus on just one person. Don't put all your eggs into one basket. Just because you have this "OMG wonderful connection with this super awesome gal/guy" does not mean you should communicate with him to the exclusion of all potential suitors. You can narrow it down later. In the beginning, compare and contrast. Check out the market. See what's out there. Don't limit yourself. Keep an open mind. You never know who you'll meet.
4. Keep your profile upbeat and clean. Be sassy and honest, but please refrain from being raunchy. You don't want to attract the wrong people. I'm sure there are specific sites for that. If that's what you're looking for, go to those specfic sites. Keep the cliches to a minimum. You don't want to sound too {insert word of choice}. Double check for spelling mistakes. None of us are perfect, but if you find an error, edit your profile. After all, its your first impression, right???
5. Post a fabulous picture!!! Its does not have to be a glamour shot. One that clearly shows off your best features and at least shows off your face.
6. If you get the "i don't feel comfortable vibe"......... stop communicating with that person. Its not worth it. That's the beauty of the internet. If you start feeling like "i'm too fabulous for this nonsense," you probably are. Move on.
7. Check out the different websites and compare. You've probably seen all the ads. Go with the one that seems like the best fit for you. Enjoy yourself. Join multiple sites if you want. Go after your heart!!
8. Stay safe. When you choose to meet, do so in a public place. You can never really trust someone you don't even know. No matter how close you feel to them after six months of online communication.
9. Don't put your online friend on a pedastle. You don't even know them. You'll be crushed when you meet him/her in person and he/she doesn't turn out to be this elaborate fantasy you have created in your head. Some people are a lot different in person from their online personalities.
10. Don't believe everything you see/read/hear from this individual. He/She could be married and living a double life. Trust your instincts. They are usually right!!!
11. Be smart. Use your good judgment. Its the internet. There are scams just like with any other online activity.
12. Be cautiously optimistic. Be yourself and let the man/woman of your dreams fall in love with the real you.
6 comments:
These tips are so useful!!!! I went out with a guy whose head was weirdly shapped head. Sometimes pictures are not accurate so don't fall for a picture.
So Sassy, i'm trying to write my profile and i lookeed around on match.com. i'm SWF 5"4 and 130lbs. Any tips? I like corporate type guys and i have a friend doing yahoo personals now. why should i pay for a dating service when i can do one for free. i jusst dont want to attract serial killers you know. so what kind of laywer are you and did you quit to work in fashion or what? The chicas blog is funny. my mom watches o'relly.
hey there swf 130 or whatever. who cares how much you weigh? if you can't spell why even bother? why do you have to describe yourself physically for us. we don't care. why do people automatically reference serial killers when the topic of online dating comes up? and it's o'reilly. puh-lease.
almost one month since your last one now.
what is the difference between eharmony and yahoo personals? how come we never see commercials for yahoo personals?
Nice.
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